OHMYGOSSIP – First impressions are crucial and can often determine the trajectory of a relationship. Unfortunately, we all make mistakes and sometimes our initial interactions don’t go as planned. But, don’t let a bad first impression define your relationship. With effort and persistence, it is possible to turn things around and make a positive impact. In this article, we will provide you with practical tips for fixing a bad first impression and improving your relationships.

Making a bad first impression can be a difficult situation to overcome, but it is not impossible. Here are some tips to help you fix a bad first impression:

Apologize: If you know that you made a mistake or did something wrong, a genuine apology can go a long way in repairing the damage.

Listen: Pay close attention to the other person and show that you are actively engaged in the conversation. This will demonstrate that you are interested in what they have to say and are willing to make amends.

Ask questions: Engage the other person by asking questions about their interests and experiences. This will show that you value their perspective and are interested in getting to know them better.

Be yourself: Be honest and genuine in your interactions, avoid putting on a facade or acting in a way that is not authentic to you. People appreciate authenticity and it can help to build trust and rapport.

Be open-minded: Be willing to hear the other person’s perspective and consider their feelings. This will help to build understanding and empathy, which can help repair the damage from a bad first impression.

Follow up: After your interaction, take the time to follow up with the other person. This could be through an email, phone call, or in-person meeting. This will show that you are committed to making things right and improving your relationship with them.

Offer to help: If the situation calls for it, offer to help the other person with a task or problem they are facing. This will show that you are supportive and willing to go the extra mile to repair the relationship.

Be patient: Repairing a bad first impression takes time and effort, so be patient and persistent in your efforts. It may take several interactions to make a positive impact, but with time and patience, you can turn the situation around.

In conclusion, making a bad first impression can be challenging, but by following these tips, you can work to repair the damage and improve your relationships. Remember to be genuine, listen, and follow up, and you will be on your way to fixing a bad first impression.

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OHMYGOSSIP – Certainly a partner will be chosen not based on age but based on mutual compatibility, yet more and more the trend is that men try to find a woman older than themselves. An older man and a younger woman – that was yesterday. Today, men between the ages of 25-35 do not seek a relationship with someone their age or younger, instead they turn their eyes to women in their 40s. Why is that?

A woman in her 40s has already got life experience and sooner or later they just wish to enjoy life. So do men – they seek a life free from stress and extra tension.

Studies have shown that an older woman can offer a lot that the modern young man lacks – she is stable and cheerful and will not cause drama over everything. She has found her place in life and if needed, can manage on her own very well. She is a friend with her body and knows how to enjoy sex, and with her experience and bedside skills can even surprise a man. It is estimated that a woman begins having orgasms only in her forties. Also, she is from the generation where there was less feminism and thanks to that she can cook, will not prioritize career, is caring and makes an effort to look feminine. A cherry on top is her experience from the previous relationship – she knows that a good relationship will not keep going just on its own, but that it will take constant effort.

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OHMYGOSSIP – What kind of a woman didn’t wish to have a masculine, polite, caring, trustworthy, emphatic and understanding man? Unless you are a bachelor then you probably are a wonderful boyfriend, a great date or a loving husband. Still it is not rare that a couple that has as though happily been together for many years, breaks up.

What do women want? Usually women say what they want. And believe it, even though for you some of those little wishes may appear pointless, they mean A LOT to women. Yet what are the gestures that women secretly (by default) expect from men?

1. KISS

Nothing makes a woman feel warm and like home than a bye-bye kiss before going to work in the morning or a greeting kiss when arriving home. With a kiss, a man conveys a silent message to his woman that he is happy to see her or that he missed her. A true pearl for couples who are less outstanding in loud displays of affection. A good tradition is also the evening-time „good night” kiss or kisses from a distance. There can never be too many kisses!

2. HUGGING

Men – women like hugging and cuddling! Scientists have proven that hugging can alleviate stress and increase the levels of the hormone responsible for feeling good – oxytocin. Kisses on the forehead, cheek, nose. Women don’t need a full force love making session to feel desirable. Often it is the small kisses that are preferred, which show that the man wishes to keep the woman close to him and is not just there for the sex. The hugs and embraces are intimate yet non-sexual and offer women the feeling of closeness. Embracing as „after-care” is especially important for women after sex, this shows the partner’s affection and his wish to be together.

3. FLOWERS, SMALL GIFTS, A WARM MESSAGE

The little things are those that show a woman that their man was thinking about them, even if it was only for ten seconds. For sure, a woman will not say „no” to a bouquet of flowers. It suffices to remember on a small scale – to bring something that the woman likes from the store or sending a warm message, in case you are spending time in different rooms.

4. COMPLIMENTS

Lines like „you look very beautiful today” may get you far. Many women pay a lot of attention to the details of their look such as make-up, hair, nails, etc. And women that don’t usually direct their energy somewhere else – try to notice! When you are considerate with your partner and compliment the effort they have made, you give them pleasure and simultaneously become aware that they have done so partly or fully because they were thinking about you.

5. HELPING WITH THE COAT, OPENING THE CAR DOOR

Helping put on the coat and opening the car door may just be the last remnants of knighthood that are still in place amidst today’s era of gender equality. These gestures might as well surprise some women since they are not expecting them – thus making you a gentleman and making the woman feel like a lady. Even if you don’t do this on a daily basis, do so on big celebrations and theatre nights. It makes the event more festive and elevates every woman’s mood!

6. GIVE YOUR WOMAN TIME TO REST AND HER „ALONE TIME”

You might feel that you wish to be together all the time, but everybody needs some alone time. Time for complete solitude. Make your plans keeping that in mind. Also it is a good compliment when during some mornings you allow your woman to sleep longer and surprise her with morning coffee and pancakes.

7. HOLD YOUR WOMAN’S HAND

Women melt when they feel that their man wishes to defend them and are brought up well. It suffices when you are polite, place your hand on your woman’s lower back or hold their hand while leading them through a crowd. They feel that the man is caring and feel their presence physically as well as emotionally.

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OHMYGOSSIP – Healthy relationships have been shown to increase our happiness, improve health and reduce stress. Studies show that people with healthy relationships have more happiness and less stress. There are basic ways to make relationships healthy, even though each relationship is different. These tips apply to all kinds of relationships: friendships, work and family relationships, and romantic partnerships.

1. Keep expectations realistic. No one can be everything we might want them to be. Healthy relationships mean accepting people as they are and not trying to change them.

2. Talk with each other. It can’t be said enough: communication is essential to healthy relationships.

Take the time. Really be there.
Genuinely listen. Do not interrupt or plan what you’re going to say next. Try to fully understand their perspective.
Ask questions. Show you are interested. Ask about their experiences, feelings, opinions, and interests.
Share information. Studies show that sharing information helps relationships begin. Let people know who you are, but don’t overwhelm with too much personal information too soon.

3. Be flexible. It is natural to feel uneasy about changes. Healthy relationships allow for change and growth.

4. Take care of yourself, too. Healthy relationships are mutual, with room for both people’s needs.

5. Be dependable. If you make plans with someone, follow through. If you take on a responsibility, complete it. Healthy relationships are trustworthy.

6. Fight fair. Most relationships have some conflict. It only means you disagree about something; it does not have to mean you don’t like each other.

Cool down before talking. The conversation will be more productive if you have it when your emotions have cooled off a little, so you don’t say something you may regret later.
Use “I statements.” Share how you feel and what you want without assigning blame or motives. E.g. “When you don’t call me, I start to feel like you don’t care about me” vs. “You never call me when you’re away. I guess I’m the only one who cares about this relationship.”
Keep your language clear and specific. Try to factually describe behavior that you are upset with, avoiding criticism and judgment. Attack the problem, not the person.
Focus on the current issue. The conversation is likely to get bogged down if you pile on everything that bothers you. Avoid using “always” and “never” language and address one issue at a time.
Take responsibility for mistakes. Apologize if you have done something wrong; it goes a long way toward setting things right again.
Recognize some problems are not easily solved. Not all differences or difficulties can be resolved. You are different people, and your values, beliefs, habits, and personality may not always be in alignment. Communication goes a long way toward helping you understand each other and address concerns, but some things are deeply rooted and may not change significantly. It is important to figure out for yourself what you can accept, or when a relationship is no longer healthy for you.

7. Be affirming. According to relationship researcher John Gottman, happy couples have a ratio of 5 positive interactions or feelings for every 1 negative interaction or feeling. Express warmth and affection!

8. Keep your life balanced. Other people help make our lives satisfying but they cannot meet every need. Find what interests you and become involved. Healthy relationships have room for outside activities.

9. It’s a process. It might look like everyone on campus is confident and connected, but most people share concerns about fitting in and getting along with others. It takes time to meet people and get to know them. Healthy relationships can be learned and practiced, and keep getting better.

10. Be yourself! It’s much easier and more fun to be authentic than to pretend to be something or someone else. Healthy relationships are made of real people.

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OHMYGOSSIP – How to love yourself? What can you do to have respect for yourself? How to care for yourself? The most important relationship we have in life is the one with ourselves. We play the main role in our lives. The journey to loving yourself is not always easy, but these tips from “The Artist of Happiness” by Hedvig Evert will help you build a better relationship with yourself.

1. Take paper and pencil. Evaluate the five relationships that are most important to you by adding a plus sign to those where you feel valued, happy, and truly noticed, and a minus sign to those where you feel limited, harassed, uncomfortable. Then reduce the amount of time you put into negative relationships, eventually eliminating them altogether.

2. Find at least half an hour every day just for yourself, and do something truly enjoyable without involving anyone else: make yourself an aroma bath (for example, you can feel great with E & S´ lavender salt), go swimming or go riding or go for walks in the forest, read your favorite book for an hour, forgetting all your responsibilities, take your time when getting ready to go out and then go for a walk, make yourself a playlist of your favorite music, turn off your phone in the middle of the day and go cycling.

In short, do the things you enjoy most, and do them for yourself, and not for others. Continue like that every day.

3. Learn to say “NO” and “YES” and practice it based on your own wishes, and avoid anticipating and thinking for other people’s wishes. If you feel that you like something or want to participate, say “YES”, if not, say “NO” without apologizing or giving elaborate reasons.

4. Gradually try to eliminate the need to excel and please others. If you are a perfectionist and love to refine everything, practice putting things aside and leaving a mess by doing something else instead, and learn to enjoy it without blaming yourself or punishing yourself for not putting an end to the activity.

If you are the type that has a hard time completing things, give up the entertainment until you finish / present / deliver it, and acknowledge the feeling when you got it done ahead of time, on time, or received positive feedback.

5. Start comparing yourself to you, not to others. Are you more loving, affectionate, understanding today than you were a year ago? Do you understand the consequences of your words, actions, attitudes to yourself and others more clearly today than a year ago?

Do you do something small every day that shows that you know how to save yourself: find time for a decent lunch, eat healthy food, wear the right clothing size and the right style for you, or express gratitude in your words and mind for everything in your life that is better today than yesterday?

When you start focusing on yourself instead of others, you may soon notice three important changes: your well-being begins to get better, your health improves, and the quality of your relationships becomes more satisfying.

It all starts the moment you decide that you yourself are at the forefront of your life, and that you are able to change all aspects of it, if you wish, and you will learn to enjoy the responsibility of making your life beautiful, with increased freedom, happiness, and sense of peace.

Change and love your life, and take care of yourself first so that you can offer the same to your loved ones!

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NordenBladet – We all know that falling in love and loving makes us feel great, but did you know that there is real science behind it? Falling in love floods our nervous system with hormones that create a feeling of well-being, so it’s no wonder that this feeling is so tempting. Many scientific studies confirm that falling in love is good for both physical and mental health. A happy relationship supports a long and happy life!

Here are five positive reasons why falling in love is good for your health:

1. Reduced stress level
Researchers at Chapel Hill University in North Carolina found that hugging and holding hands releases oxytocin in the body, which lowers stress hormone levels, increases pain tolerance, improves mood and lowers blood pressure. Many other studies have also shown that love and falling in love reduce stress levels. And since stress is considered to be the leading cause of a very large number of illnesses, it is no wonder that people in a loving relationship live longer because their stress levels are lower.

Psychiatrist Joseph Hulett has said: “Humans are social beings with a biological need to find a relationship. If they can’t find it, they will suffer from stress.” Julianne Holt-Lunstad, a professor at Brigham Young University, agrees with the above, saying that our relationships help us cope with stress, and if we have someone to turn to for emotional support and advice, it is a good buffer against the negative effects of stress.

Lower stress levels also give us healthier skin and a slimmer waist. Elevated stress levels are associated with higher levels of cortisol in the body. Due to cortisol, adipose tissue tends to deposit primarily at the waist and skin problems are more likely to occur.

2. Stronger immune system
Happy couples who deal with misunderstandings in a positive way also have a better functioning immune system than those who do not. Researchers who have watched couples behave in a conflict situation have found that those who argued in an optimistic and loving way had a stronger immune system than those who argued in a negative way about each other during the dispute.

3. Pain relief
Studies have shown that people who experienced an electric shock described lower levels of pain when they were able to hold a loved one at the same time. Female subjects who were happily married experienced less pain when they were able to hold the husband. The help of friends is important, but the one we love is even better able to reduce our perception of pain.

4. Better physical form
Couples who train together achieve better results than those who train alone. Nutritionist and trainer Jay Cardiello has said: “Almost half of the people who train alone interrupt their program after the first year, but two-thirds of those who train with a loved one continue.” It has also been found that those who train with a partner do so 12–15% more efficiently. When there is a loved one next to you who inspires you for a common goal, it really pays off.

5. Better overall well-being
At Rutgers University, people were found to have high levels of dopamine in their brains when they looked at a picture of a loved one. Dopamine is associated with increased energy, a positive outlook on life and general well-being.

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OHMYGOSSIP – Everyone wants to be happy. Aristotle has said that the most fundamental desire of  all people is to be happy, and all activities in their lives are motivated by this desire. Of course, we all want to be happy, but how many of us are consciously working in that direction?

Falling ill is a sign of our wrong lifestyle. Worry, fears and negative thoughts weaken our body. Only keep useful and meaningful things in your life—what is
good for you is good for others.

Start conscious work on yourself, because in the long run it will pay off. Below you find three approaches that have been used over three millennia.

1. Start watching your thoughts. Take five minutes each evening to write down the feelings you felt during the day. Remind yourself of the situations and emotions you have experienced. What negative traits do they hide? What are you going to do tomorrow to improve those traits? It is very important to write it all down.

2. Think of the things that make you happy — and the so-called miracle of positive thinking is born! When you focus on the things you like, you seem to move into a different range of vibrations and your body begins to heal itself. What’s more, even more positive things come into your life because everything you think becomes a reality, including the problems that plague you. Focus on the things you enjoy and see how things start to change.

3. Practice meditation. During meditation, the body and mind rest and heal themselves.

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OHMYGOSSIP – Many people have been at a point in their lives where everything seems to be fine, but there is no happiness—they simply don’t feel happy. Standard norms dictated by society further curtail this happiness. You may have a good education, a well-paid job, a nice home, power and good health, but you still seem to be missing something. In reality, you need spirituality and peace of mind, love and the opportunity to be necessary for society.

Tara Mullarkey is a yoga teacher, healer, entrepreneur and lifestyle mentor. The former successful New York corporate financier took a turn in her life, leading her to a three-year journey to India, Thailand, Bali, Australia, New Zealand, Morocco and Europe. Having undergone such a lifestyle change, Tara gives advice on how to find your way in search for a purpose in life, love, well-being and abundance.

Mullarkey says if she had been asked what her life plan was at the age of 25, she would have answered: marry her boyfriend at the time, buy a house in her hometown of Connecticut, have children, get a Master’s degree, and work on the career ladder. Tara admits that if she had been told that instead she would leave her job in Manhattan to study yoga, travel the world, and eventually stay in the Caribbean, Mexico, she would never have believed it.

But various life events gave Tara the courage to look at her life, and she saw that despite being on the right track, she was not happy. She had long working days and had to drive around a lot, her relationships broke down and there was hysterical confusion in her mind.

Mullarkey admitted that the problem arises when most people around you don’t understand you and your lifestyle. “If you live “unusually”— you travel, live abroad, start your own business in a new city and follow the call of your heart, it may seem too risky for people who value stability. They don’t understand it. They are afraid for you, though they secretly envy you. The fact that their fear can also infect you may complicate things, and you may doubt the reasonableness of following the call of your heart. You doubt if you can do what you love, where you like it, and with whom you love.

4 IDEAS on how not to walk the treadmills and find your path!

1. Dedicate time each day to some spiritual practice, such as yoga, meditation, prayers, or rituals.
2. Take the time as often as possible to connect with your gut, so that you can hear your intuition, heart and soul louder than the impeccable voices around you.
3. Find a community of people with similar views. Spend more time with people who understand you and who create their own path in the same way. Limit the time you spend with friends and family who do not support your vision.
4. Be strong, fearless, and faithful.

Know that you are magnificent and that you have something special to offer the world that no one else has. The world needs your talents!

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